Ever wondered about that person whom you stalk on social media? The one with greatest number of selfies?
Here’s the startling realisation:
They would prefer to die than to be alone.
To prove themselves wrong about this, they constantly upload their “solo-selfies” to remind themselves they are alone. Or perhaps hiding the fact that they are alone.
Well, that is a case of loneliness – that could occur any time. With isolation or without isolation.
Isolation is totally different. It’s not a choice like loneliness, it’s imposed, meaning:
The fact that you craved for work from home 3 months back, now your kids are also a part of your Zoom calls.
It is possible to hang clothes in the balcony and talk about generating revenue.
It is also possible to enjoy bass on your Bose and pay zero attention to the boss on concall.
That’s the fun of isolation. It comes with a huge degree of freedom as well, if we choose not to compare it with loneliness.
Loneliness can happen in a party as well. Isolation is a nightmare that extinguishes all chances of parties and pizza.
Loneliness happens out of pain. Isolation happens not only to avoid pain – it is a do or die – do isolation or die. Have to!
Loneliness happens out of blaming other people. Never helps. Isolation happens out of blaming other countries in WhatsApp groups – never helps, yet it makes us connected with those untouched groups since 2017.
And while you are in this imposed isolation, here’s a perspective to understand:
Remember your savior: Anytime you feel alone, remind yourself that your oregano collection is there for you. It will help you, support you, and be the light in isolated times. Ordinary people paint and read a book during isolation. Extraordinary people put oregano in curd or in maggi and live their fullest lives.
Bigger Perspective: The entire rush of our lives was to make things better. Make that sale – to make customer’s life (and our incentive) better. Produce that video – to shift the viewer’s mindset (and to have sponsorships in future). Get that MBA – because you are passionate about it – or probably that was the best way to escape parental pressures.
However the most important of all is our chase for a better life. This isolation is just different – not to be better in life. It is the only option to have a life – if life won’t exist in the first place, how will you get all the fun stuff you are so beautifully been waiting for ?
Remember the school teacher: You had to say yes ma’am! You thought school would get over and life is great. Who knew you would have to sit for longer hours with greater pressure to earn money, and say “yes ma’am,” “yes sir.” Isolation is making your school time wishes come true! Sit the way you want, put your laptop on the floor, sleep and answer your emails – life has become like a college hostel with no yes sir or ma’am. O yes, you do get aloo in aloo parathas in this hostel.
Forget hobbies, have fun: Okay, you wanted to learn guitar and signed up for an online course you wanted to learn from. Or did you want “that one person” to see it on your feed? Be it your boss, be it your class mate who used to bully you, be it anyone else. Had you really wanted to learn to play guitar, you would have. What if you do something fun? That you really enjoy? Like playing hopscotch in the living room? Or turning on your home theatre and dance like Katrina? Or what about calling your sister far away in the middle of the day – for no reason – with a ghost mask on your face? Focus on fun, you’ll be glad you did.
Learn to chill: There is a special pleasure in falling asleep with a book in hand. Or to clean the floor after having watermelon (and spilling its water). Or to know that this weekend you won’t have to go for grocery shopping. It feels like a super special throne when the laptop is kept on the floor. It will in reality take you to those days of “wish I didn’t grow up.”
The world is chilling by streaming shows, while to a certain extent it is good, yet at a deeper level, it is loneliness. Loneliness won’t go away ever – in the malls, in the restaurant, at a hangout with friends.
Isolation – is a gift.
It is a gift for your abs as you have to mop the floor.
It is a gift for that one piece of Goa slippers lying behind your bed – to have a chance to finally escape coma between life and death.
And guess what! It is a gift for your boss as well – no matter how much they say the opposite, they are really enjoying this isolation.
And so are you, if you just have the right combination of self-care and email care; and the right combination of oregano and cheese in maggi. Okay?